My Journey To Becoming A Well-Rested, Well-Resourced & Well-Pleasured Woman & Mother in the Third World

I tune in, when I’m able to, to a lot of content surrounding holistic healing as a wombman. I understand fully the present state of the world and how it’s been designed to keep wombmen oppressed - to keep our wombs in a state of energetic dormancy and not able to wield its full power. This cycle, rooted in a history of systemic misogyny, poverty, and feminine oppression, is hard to break out of because, collectively, the world has just given in to these imbalanced ways of life as the ‘norm’ or at least as something that is impossible to get out of.

When I met my dear husband in 2016, it was the beginning of my exit from the patriarchal version of female that I was programmed to be. My husband, born, raised, and always having been a rebel, saw me - really saw me - beyond the surface-level beauty accessories I wore to make myself feel good. I remember he asked me if I had gotten burned on my face one day when he was just staring at me. No one had ever asked me this, as no one could really see that I had indeed gotten burned badly as a young toddler - about age two. I was taken aback, but also this gave me the reaffirmation of something I was sensing - this man was meant to see me for me and help me uncover the truest essence of myself.

When we met, I was not conscious of any of this esoteric knowledge around the masculine and feminine energy or the history of patriarchy that kept so many women trapped in self-defeating cycles of a wounded version of our femininity. But, in surrendering to the journey - simply by trusting that inner energy of love - I ended up on a radical path of awakening to the supernatural world and the metaphysical nature of life. This led me to recognizing that the socioeconomic states of our world are deeply connected to the spiritual state and our PsychoSpiritual faculties.

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What I’ve come to recognize is that, the region of the world you are born in will have an influence on the way your energy shows up in the earth. There are two dominant energies within all beings represented as the two polarizing forces of nature - masculine and feminine or Yang and Yin. Though our physiological body connects to these energies, these energies have nothing to do with our sex. Both physical man and woman have masculine and feminine energies within them just to different degrees, just as we each have a right and left brain hemisphere designed to carry out different functions but needing each other. The right and left brain hemispheres also connect to these two polarizing energies.

As wombmen, we are expected to be this patriarchally defined version of the feminine energy, and men are expected to be this imbalanced expression of masculinity. Wombmen in our primordial nature thrived in androgyny - because our survival depended on it. Androgyny simply means that we loved expressing in balance our masculine and feminine energies, as the moment bid.

However, there is a deeper layer to this energetic expression process that is rooted in the process of procreation and keeping life on earth. The wombman holds the womb and the womb is the seat of the feminine energy just as the mind is the seat of the masculine energy. Hence wombmen naturally had a direct connection to feminine energy more than men, while also having a connection to masculine energy - for we, like a man, have a mind. Patriarchy held jealousy over this dualistic power of women - to hold the seats to both the feminine and masculine forces of earth. Hence they tried their best to keep wombmen bound to an artificial connection to their womb energy and never nurturing their minds.

Wombmen were taught that we should never use our minds and were restricted in many ways to prevent mind expansion through learning and consciousness development. Men, on the other hand, never ever having access to the natural womb, could not develop a healthy connection to the feminine spirit, and with the wombman being programmed to neglect her primal connection to her womb, there were no wombmen around them to teach them the ways of the feminine spirit. Furthermore, the wombmen who were brave enough to keep the wisdom of the womb and feminine alive were hunted, tortured, and pushed to the edges of the world to die in poverty.

The reclamation of our womb spaces is how we reactivate our primal powers of nourishment as wombmen.

This journey requires the support of men who, too, revere the wisdom of the feminine spirit and are on a path of learning how to connect with and honor the feminine, which they can access through the natural world, even without having a womb or a wombman. Naturally too, men come from the womb so they have a birthright connection to the womb, but they do not possess the womb so they have a different journey of reconnection than the wombman.

A man attuned to the feminine spirit will reject the ways of patriarchy - his ways will not align with the societally accepted ways of masculinity.

There is a very thin line, however, between a man who is rooted in his masculine nature and in reverence to the feminine spirit versus a man who has an unhealthy obsession with, or attachment to, the feminine spirit - which can manifest in various ways of imbalance such as being envious of women, having a hate towards women, wanting to be a woman even when his destiny is to develop rooted masculinity, etc.

Rooted masculines are necessary for the rooted feminine wombman because the physiological man bears the seed to procreate. He plants the seed in the womb of wombmen which initiates her into motherhood and matriarchy. However, his work doesn’t end there - as he initiates her into motherhood, she initiates him into fatherhood as her impregnated womb now requires support in nourishment and protection, and this activates his rooted masculine which will also activate his connection to the feminine just as she, too, will be activated in her rooted feminine as her masculine energy develops, calling for her to embody the work of taking charge over being a matriarchal leader to govern over the nourishment and security needs of her offspring and learn to delegate to her masculine and village how they may best support her. This work requires her mind - the seat of her masculine energy - hence her work to develop her masculine energy is also part of her initiation into rooted femininity.

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To be a well-rested, well-resourced, and well-pleasured woman is to return to this primordial rooted feminine state, and in a world like our own, it is a fight. For women and mothers, like myself, who choose partnership, it is so important to be partnered with a man who understands the patriarchal traps of the world that are set up for wombman, how it is encoded in the man l, through generations of miseducation to use these traps against women, and how our world is designed to keep the wombs sick and wombmen in a state of lack of awareness of our primordial nature and needs.

My journey of returning to Jamaica and being in the countrysides, building from scratch, has been a path towards reclaiming this rooted feminine state. To embody this state is to go to war with the intergenerational wounded womb energy that I descend from, but also to reconnect to the primal, healthy womb energy that has always been there, though neglected in so many women and mothers in my lineage, for a plethora of reasons.

Unfortunately, in Jamaica — perhaps like many other parts of the world — our cultural, community, and even familial environments tend to reflect more so the wounded masculine and feminine expressions of life. Here, the two energies are constantly at war. Men know not of their primal and divine duties, and women are severely disconnected from their womb wisdom, leaving them to choose relationships rooted in unconscious, trauma-based interactions, build broken family units and become codependent on a very difficult economic system.

My journey is not without its challenges, and often I even feel like it’s impossible for me, one woman in my lineage with no elderly guidance or a village of conscious women around me, to survive this journey of building a life from scratch that is nourishing to my womb, especially in a world and country so rooted in artificial systems as our own. But I recognize this to be a false thought that pops up ever so rarely, rooted in the programmings and realities of post-colonial, patriarchal principles that we must constantly fight against.

The fight to shift from being constantly rooted in a disempowered, weakened, and wounded vibration is fueled by the spirit of The Most High that lives within me and all other wombmen who are consciously choosing to put effort into practicing a better way forward, one that nourishes the body and mind, and connects to spirit, free from the patriarchal and religious beliefs that have kept us rooted in fear. The work is not separate from the life we live; it is deeply intertwined. Every aspect of our lives becomes an effort to embody this well-rested, well-resourced, and well-pleasured womanly state that so many conscious women of various races and cultures are fighting to reclaim. It is further empowered when we are supported by a community that desires to see us thrive.

Lastly, why well-pleasured?

I recognize the cycles of pleasure in nature - when harvest comes and the blooms arrive and all is just inviting for play and fun and nourishment and this is the time which prepares for the cycles of challenges and hard work that will, inevitably, return. We live in a world that praises hard work without rest and play as if this is natural, and when we do rest or play, there is some corruption intermingled which takes away from the organic nature that rest and play were meant to be.

Reclaiming nourishing love and connections and cultivating life experiences rooted in this balanced way of work is what brings back the well-pleasured woman, and this version of the wombman is able to withstand whatever comes her way because she has been nourished well - all around.

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My journey as a Black woman born and living in a third world country presents unique obstacles rooted in socioeconomic oppression stemming from a history of our lineages being once colonized and left severely impoverished. Because of my origin and place of residence, I have recognized that my walk as a conscious woman looks very different to the journeys of reclaiming divine femininity that I often see displayed online — often from the perspective of white women or even non-white women with ‘white’ privileges. In better phrasing, I suppose it is simply that many of these people who speak on the journeys of spiritual awakening, manifestation, etc., have never truly been in a socioeconomic environment like rural Jamaica, where truly starting from scratch can be without any form of governmentally provided infrastructures or technological advancement. Many rural areas in Jamaica have never had any basic access to many ‘first world privileges’ due to the challenging socioeconomic conditions of our country, and this greatly impacts what the journey of cultivating a more well-nourished, resourced, and pleasurable life is like.

Still, with consciousness — one can strive. It is what I continue to do, alongside my husband and children. I can attest to the fact that alignment and miraculous favor can and do find those who are steadfast in their mission of holistic self-improvement.

I continue to work, grow, and build in soul alignment

Blessings,

Makeda.

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